PARENTIFED DAUGHTERS
GET ON 5 DATES WITH HIGH EFFORT MEN IN 90 DAYS GUARANTEED OR YOU DON'T PAY
Men are not the problem here. You have a pattern that started way before any of them.
You don't get the man you WANT (the one in your notes app), you get the man you are a match for.
You're the one who…
…doesn't say what's actually on your heart, because you don't want him to get upset.
…can tell he had a rough day, so you make the dinner, clean it up, and don't ask for a single thing.
…says "no, no, it's okay" when he offers to help and then feels invisible when he stops offering.
…reads the room and is adjusting to everyones moos before you've even enter
…carries the whole dang world and calls it being easygoing.
And that, love bug, is why you're a match for the low-effort man.
He's the "what are you doing" text at 11pm.
He picks you up and asks where you want to go.
He asks to spilt the bill.
The texts are sparse, and you praying to the relationship gods he gives you more.
Then you do the same thing with every single one of them. You initiate the conversations. You remind him you exsist. You over function and over give. He does less. You resent him.
It ends... and now you're convinced all men are the same.
It's not all men. It's the pattern.
Yet the Magnetic Femme community...
"I've never been on this many dates with different guys in such a short period of time where they're pursuing ME and I'm not feeling like I'm begging or chasing."
Casey
"Prior to working with Terri, I would have never believed I was worthy of this level of effort from a man. Now I know and believe I am." (A man drove 8 hours in a snow storm to take her on a first date) She is now in a happy relationship.
Lisa
"After almost 50 years of chasing, people pleasing, living hyper independently and always doing and proving and needing to be in control… things have turned around. The men I deserve are now coming into my life, my femininity is starting to outshine the masculine parts of me, and I'm so freaking excited!" She is now in a happy relationship.
Michelle
Sound Familiar?
01: YOU'RE ALWAYS THE ONE Initiating
You texted first. You nudged him to hangout again. You picked the restaurant. You moved your schedule around. You put in all the effort yet he is still just “too busy with work” to prioritize you..
02: "I'm just not in a place for a relationship right now."
You’ve gotten so used to men saying this to you. At this point it's the theme song of your life and you are convinced that men are the issue.
03: YOU'VE DONE ALL THE WORK
The therapy. The books. Every attachment podcast ever recorded. You could teach a masterclass on your own pattern… and you're still single.
04: LOVE FEELS LIKE SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO EARN
So you overgive. You shrink your needs down to teeny tiny. You play the chill girl who's never too much, never needy, never a bother. And the more you give? The more he pulls away.
05: YOU CAN'T TURN OFF THE inner BIG DOG
Boss babe at work. Boss in the gym. Refuse to accept help even if your arm is literally going to fall off from carrying 10 bags of groceries to the car. You lead with your accomplishments on a date like you are presenting him with your resume.
06: YOU ARE SO TIRED
Of being the strong one. Of handling everything alone. Of not being taken care of. Of being in survival mode. Of all the men that are incompetent. Just once you'd like to be the one who gets taken care of. You want to finally relax.
The men aren't the problem. It's the little girl who is screaming to be chosen by her dad.
Break up with your dad, and dating finally gets fun.
FROM CHASING TO
Becoming the magnet.
01: MY STORY
I was 11 when I slept on a mattress on the floor next to my two sisters, with homeless strangers sleeping on the other side of the door. We lost our family home in the 2008 financial recession. This is when I learned I couldn’t trust my parents to take care of me. I learned that in order to survive I could only depend on myself. I had to be tough and not feel my emotions. I had to be capable.
That's when my inner big dog was born. I needed her to survive.
02: THE BIG DOG RAN MY WHOLE LIFE
I took her everywhere. Into a heavy-duty mechanics apprenticeship, where I won awards for being the hardest-working apprentice. Into every room where I could prove I was tougher than the guys. I’d compete with them and show them I was better. I would show them I could out drink them.
I needed nothing from anybody. I thought anyone who asked for help was weak. I thought women who showed emotion were “crazy”. I played the "chill girl" and pushed everyone away. (But secretly craved not feeling so alone)
03: THEN SHE BLED INTO MY DATING LIFE
I kept choosing men who wouldn’t show up, because I didn't need them to or frankly wouldn’t allow them to because “I could do it better”. They felt emasculated and useless so they never stuck around.
So I overfunctioned. I made my wants smaller. I chased harder. At 21 I baked banana bread at 11pm and left it on the porch of a man who hadn't texted me in four days. He broke up with a few days later.
And I told myself the story: men can't step up. All the good ones are taken. Maybe I'm just built to do this alone.
04: WHAT ACTUALLY CHANGED
I was the common denominator. I'd spent my whole life trying to out-man every man in the room so I'd never need one because needing one was terrifying considering I couldn’t trust my dad to show up for me.
I was the problem. Which SUCKED to realize. But it was also SO freeing.
So I put the big dog down.
I practiced letting a man pay instead of fighting him for the bill. I practiced saying "yes, thank you" instead of "no, no, I've got it."
I practiced walking at my own pace while he held the door, instead of speed-walking so he'd never have to wait on me.
It felt like fire on my skin. And the men changed almost immediately.
I went from begging for a text back to being flown to tropical places. From doing every single thing myself to being taken care of in ways 21-year-old me would not have believed.
04: The Method
I built Magnetic Femme: a 60-day system that heals the root in your body with somatic work (not another year of just talking about it). At the same time, it gets you out dating, with me in your corner. Now men carry my bags, pay the bill, and hold the door while I walk at my own pace and book the trips.
"You don't get the man you WANT... you get the man you are a match for."
Who this is for
And who it isn't.
This is for you if
You're done triple-texting Chad and calling it "keeping the conversation going"
You want to be pursued by a masculine protector-provider… not be the one doing the pursuing
You're READY to take accountability and do the work. (it will be fun I promise)
You're ready to shift out of masculine energy and actually allow him to step up for you.
You want real dates in 90 days: not matches, not pen pals, not a guy who's been "so busy" since March
This isn't for you if
You want the one perfect text that makes him propose.
You're planning to wear your men-are-trash t-shirt to our first call
You're not ready to look at where your patterns came from
You're signing up hoping I'll hand you a witchcraft spell that has him crawling back on his hands and knees
You want someone to fix you while you watch
FAQ
Common
Questions.
What exactly is Magnetic Femme?
A 6-month coaching program for the woman who's ready to go on real dates with high-effort men and completely change how she dates, who she dates and how she feels about herself.
Real dates meaning: he plans it. He picks the place. He pursues you with intention. (One of my clients had a man drive eight hours through a snowstorm to take her out. That's the standard we're building.)
Because right now you're answering a "what you doin" text at 11pm and eating Chick-fil-A on the floor of a condo with a man that doesn't have a couch.
How we get you there: we heal the wound in your body, not just your head… get you out of big-dog mode, and take it straight into real-life dating.
How is this different from what I've already tried?
If reading the books and listening to the podcasts worked, you'd be with Prince Charming right now.
You can read an entire book about car mechanics and still not be able to change your own oil. Knowing is not the same as doing. You know exactly why your mom's victim mentality triggers you… and you'll still end up hiding in the bathroom with a glass of wine on Christmas Day.
The pattern lives in your nervous system.
So we work in the body… tapping, somatic release, regulation practices built for you... So you can stay calm when he doesn't text back right away, say the thing instead of swallowing it, and let a man do something for you without crawling out of your skin.
Then we take it into real life: profile audits, help with what to text, and a debrief after every date.
How does the guarantee work?
Do the work and if you're not on 3–5 dates with high-effort men within 90 days, you don't pay.
How long is the program?
Six months. Intentionally designed to walk you through my signature method: rewire the pattern, get you out of the big dog and into your feminine, and have you dating high-effort men. Long enough to actually change how you operate.
What if I'm not dating right now, or I live somewhere with twelve people?
Honestly? Doing this work when you're not in the thick of it is a bit of a cheat code. You get to rewire the pattern without also spending your evenings wondering whether Chad's going to text back. Then you walk into dating already regulated, already clear, already magnetic.
Tiny town? We'll figure out where your man actually is. he exists.